There are many things in this world that are toxic and the worst thing, in my humble opinion, is people.
I try to be a good person and stick by trying to be nice to people, regardless of how they are treating me. Not because I always think that these individuals deserve to be treated well. For all I know, they are going through a tough time and acting out in the hopes of someone asking them the simple question “are you okay?” other than that, they may actually just be d*cks (not that I have anything against that particular piece of anatomy, however most derogatory terms do tend to stem from our nether regions) and being nice to them will just confuse the hell out of them. Personally, I would rather confuse someone into thinking I am a bit thick and be silly enough to underestimate me, than to waste my time sinking to a lower level to be nasty.
Although I try to live like this, we all know it ain’t easy. Some people are just experts at pushing all the right buttons or you have such a long, complicated history which is unable to be suppressed completely so the negatively continues to flow.
I have a couple of toxic people in my life and they have only remained in my life this long, because there are innocents caught in the crossfire. I do not like pulling others into my life, my arguments or my troubles. Misery may love company but in times like this, I prefer to go it alone. I do not know if this is because I am empathetic and know what it is like to feel others pain. I do know that I don’t want to bring others down with me.
Perhaps others have better ways of dealing with toxic people. For me, all I can say is:
- Avoid them wherever possible (which can be difficult depending on relationship with this person whether they are family, colleague, boss, neighbour etc).
- Try not to sink to their level
- Don’t forget to smile. Toxic people always have a way of undoing themselves. Sit back and wait.